Have you heard of the #KillIt movement? One of our friends decided to address the all too real and disturbing trend of suicide that is ripping through our society. I personally have struggled in a minor way with postpartum depression but I thankfully had a mum who helped me get through it. She asked me the right questions, assured me that I wasn't alone and that I would get through this in time. I do realise though that there are many who silently suffer from chronic depression, mental illness and other emotional set backs that could lead to suicidal tendencies. A friend of mine, a couple of years ago went through a very difficult patch with her marriage ending and a divorce on the way. I asked her a few questions and here's what she said.
Has suicide ever been an option for you?
Yes but not anymore, not ever!
Why was it an option even for that brief time?
I was struggling with feelings of failure, rejection, lack of approval from people and as a result constantly focusing on myself through those lens.
I know you a long time and I know you love life and people so why would you have contemplated such a drastic step?
True that, but when you are struggling emotionally your mind plays games on you making you feel unwanted, useless and that without you life would be better for everyone around.
Later on, I felt like I let God down because marriage, in my world, was a covenant and although I didn't opt for the divorce it was taking its course and toll on me. I genuinely thought that my leaving the scene permanently would be better because I didn’t want my parents to suffer ridicule nor did I want to face people back home. I didn’t know anymore why, what or who I was living for?
How did you keep from giving in to the urge of ending your life?
I did attempt it but miserably failed. I realise now that God protected me.
What has made the biggest impact in your life since then?
My relationship with my God has been my greatest asset in my recovery. I learnt to love him more and in turn learned to love myself. My friends also stood by me in those dark times and helped me bounce back stronger than ever.
What is your advice to people who are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts.
You are not alone you are loved. Don’t stay alone, always be with someone. When your thoughts get dark and destructive call someone and don't stay in the same place. Get some air!
More than anything - PLEASE GET HELP. THE RIGHT KIND OF HELP !
Find a good counsellor (someone recommended to you by others) and get the help you need.
You are not weak when you ask for help. You are most brave when you do.
My friend today lives a life of incredible purpose and influence undeterred by her past.
If you are going through a difficult phase and see no light at the end of the tunnel, I sincerely hope you will read this and get help.
Click on this link killit.in and find hope again!
KILL DEPRESSION / KILL SUICIDE
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