Ever been in the midst of a heated argument with someone very close when all of a sudden in a fit of insecurity you scream out words of self affirmation which vaguely sound prideful and arrogant? No?? It's just me then I guess!

Never mind. Since this blog is all about being raw and open at the risk of being highly vulnerable I'm going to just come out and say it.

So in an argument with the better half a while back (I barely remember the argument) I rebutted his explanations with this simple phrase "Remember dude, I'm a real catch for you"

Simple phrase ?? I don't think so..

My husband then proceeded to point out that off late, I haven't let him forget that!

To cut a long story short.. we made up and apologised to each other for our words and 'phrases' but what he said kept ringing in my ears. Did I really go on about how much of a catch I was?? More importantly did I behave like the "catch" that I claimed I was? I began micro-examining my role as a wife and help mate. Did I love, honour and cherish him the way my vows promised him I would? Was I supportive in the better and worse situations? Was I a source of quiet wisdom or a ear tingling shriek of foolishness? Did I love and honour his parents as much as I did mine?

I'm not going to share my answers here (a few secrets never killed anyone right ??) but the answers made me want to be an even better woman and a wife. I may never be affirmed verbally the way I want or need but if I behave like the 'catch' that I claim to be, affirmation will cease to be all important, I'm sure.

Who is it that you claim to be ? Do you genuinely behave like the person you believe you are? If your answer is no.. there's nothing to be dejected about!

Our lives' purpose should be to become better versions of ourselves. Step into this year ready to change little by little into the best version of yourself !

Like the Bacardi song goes 'Be what you want to be.' Nothing more. Nothing less.

As I complete nine years of being married to this kind, generous and loving man I realise that we are not perfect people but that we are imperfect people made perfect for each other by a perfect God !

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